I have never enjoyed wedding
functions in my life. I feel weddings are just a way to stay part of the
society you live in, which is of course essential but I am sure there are other
ways where you can stay a part of the society which doesn’t necessarily involve
extravagant ways.
Allow me to quote “Barbara de Angelis”
The real act
of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or
synagogue. It's a choice you make - not just on your wedding day, but over and
over again.
For some it’s a cultural
necessity, for some blessings given by messengers of God (read pundits), for
some just a way to prove to the world how rich they are. I have attended
weddings where; there were 256 dishes to be precise for guests to choose from,
9L were spent in a day only on food, guests cribbed even after the arrangements
were perfect for hosts’ limit. Huh! The grand celebrations may be fun for a lot
of people but to me personally its boring, unpleasant and money wasting
exercise.
Allow me to quote “Friedrich
Schiller”
A gloomy guest fits not a
wedding feast.
But recently I attended a wedding
which was not a mere wedding but a celebration in all its true sense. It wasn’t
an extravaganza for people who had to be invited coz they invite you, people
had to be gifted more than you are implied to. Nor was it a grand feast where
the food is wasted like nobody’s business. It was a family get together where
family from all over the country and even outside the country came to wish the
bride and the groom with all their benevolent heart, they had contagious energy
and joyous hearts to begin with. A small
gathering of friends and family were together to have good fun. Everyone was
part of the celebration and was expected to be a helping hand in the wedding.
The party
started with a guitar night and the youth were having a blast. It was in house-
like a garden party you read about in English short stories. All the important
wedding functions were held at the same ground. A lively lamp and flower décor filled
the space with brimming light, filled the hearts with erupting joys. And I realized
a family who looks out for “khushiyan”
in smaller things.
A wedding where expenses were made with utter
sense and no illogical write-off was done. Be it sangeet, haldi or baraat everything
was superb and I enjoyed every bit of it. Every guest was treated like a house
member giving him/her full joy of the place as well as the parties. The food
was tastefully selected and most amazing I have ever had.
The bride
looked gorgeous with her smile on and happiness spreading contagiously to all the
family members.
How I wish
to have something like this for my own D-day.
Lastly,
allow me to quote “David Tutera”
“There is no such thing as a perfect wedding. A wedding is
about the love that surrounds the couple and it tells the story of the bride
and the groom. If the wedding allows the guests to be transported to an
emotional place they never thought they could be before, that’s a perfect
wedding. If they can walk away seeing something they’ve never seen before,
that’s a perfect wedding. If you learn more about the bride and the groom and
their story, that’s a perfect wedding. It’s not about how beautiful the flowers
are, how great the food is, how big the cake is, how beautiful the dress is;
those are things you have to do. It’s about walking away with an emotion you
didn’t think you had.
