a beautiful wedding!

I have never enjoyed wedding functions in my life. I feel weddings are just a way to stay part of the society you live in, which is of course essential but I am sure there are other ways where you can stay a part of the society which doesn’t necessarily involve extravagant ways.

Allow me to quote “Barbara de Angelis”

The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It's a choice you make - not just on your wedding day, but over and over again.

For some it’s a cultural necessity, for some blessings given by messengers of God (read pundits), for some just a way to prove to the world how rich they are. I have attended weddings where; there were 256 dishes to be precise for guests to choose from, 9L were spent in a day only on food, guests cribbed even after the arrangements were perfect for hosts’ limit. Huh! The grand celebrations may be fun for a lot of people but to me personally its boring, unpleasant and money wasting exercise.

Allow me to quote “Friedrich Schiller”

A gloomy guest fits not a wedding feast.

But recently I attended a wedding which was not a mere wedding but a celebration in all its true sense. It wasn’t an extravaganza for people who had to be invited coz they invite you, people had to be gifted more than you are implied to. Nor was it a grand feast where the food is wasted like nobody’s business. It was a family get together where family from all over the country and even outside the country came to wish the bride and the groom with all their benevolent heart, they had contagious energy and  joyous hearts to begin with. A small gathering of friends and family were together to have good fun. Everyone was part of the celebration and was expected to be a helping hand in the wedding.

The party started with a guitar night and the youth were having a blast. It was in house- like a garden party you read about in English short stories. All the important wedding functions were held at the same ground. A lively lamp and flower décor filled the space with brimming light, filled the hearts with erupting joys. And I realized a family who looks out for “khushiyan” in smaller things.

 A wedding where expenses were made with utter sense and no illogical write-off was done. Be it sangeet, haldi or baraat everything was superb and I enjoyed every bit of it. Every guest was treated like a house member giving him/her full joy of the place as well as the parties. The food was tastefully selected and most amazing I have ever had.

The bride looked gorgeous with her smile on and happiness spreading contagiously to all the family members.

How I wish to have something like this for my own D-day.

Lastly, allow me to quote “David Tutera”

“There is no such thing as a perfect wedding. A wedding is about the love that surrounds the couple and it tells the story of the bride and the groom. If the wedding allows the guests to be transported to an emotional place they never thought they could be before, that’s a perfect wedding. If they can walk away seeing something they’ve never seen before, that’s a perfect wedding. If you learn more about the bride and the groom and their story, that’s a perfect wedding. It’s not about how beautiful the flowers are, how great the food is, how big the cake is, how beautiful the dress is; those are things you have to do. It’s about walking away with an emotion you didn’t think you had.